How many of you have been in a situation where a part of you wants to stay but you must leave a place. All you want is someone to call out from the back and suggest an alternative or offer you to stay. What do you do ? How long do you wait for someone to call out ? What if no one does ? What if someone does call out but yet the reason/excuse they offer is not convincing to you ?
Now picturize yourself making a very important decision of your life. You have set your mind on something; it is not the convention but it was what you think your heart desires. At the same time, you want someone to come by and show you the mistake you are making. Observe, I don't use the word 'tell' you about the mistake, instead they should be able to convince you. Why is that you can't make up your mind yourself ? Don't you know what you want ? Or is that you want the decision to be in else's hands so that later in life if things go wrong, or you mess up, you can point that indicting finger towards him/her and curse him for the rest of your life ? Is having a fall-back guilty guy more important than doing what might be the most important thing in your life ?
Brain does work in mysterious ways, doesn't it ? In an attempt to avoid guilt (which might never be faced) , one is ready to ruin his life ; life that cannot be lived twice.
Now picturize yourself making a very important decision of your life. You have set your mind on something; it is not the convention but it was what you think your heart desires. At the same time, you want someone to come by and show you the mistake you are making. Observe, I don't use the word 'tell' you about the mistake, instead they should be able to convince you. Why is that you can't make up your mind yourself ? Don't you know what you want ? Or is that you want the decision to be in else's hands so that later in life if things go wrong, or you mess up, you can point that indicting finger towards him/her and curse him for the rest of your life ? Is having a fall-back guilty guy more important than doing what might be the most important thing in your life ?
Brain does work in mysterious ways, doesn't it ? In an attempt to avoid guilt (which might never be faced) , one is ready to ruin his life ; life that cannot be lived twice.
maybe not to avoid guilt.. people feel the need of company, they need to know that they're not the only ones out there taking that path..
ReplyDeleteBut well, i didn't get this..if one is convinced that something is a mistake.. why would they do it? And why would one not want to be corrected?
" At the same time, you want someone to come by and show you the mistake you are making. Observe, I don't use the word 'tell' you about the mistake, instead they should be able to convince you. "
ReplyDeleteI intend to point out that one begins to doubt his decision but due to some 'meaning' attached to the choice, can't let it go. You HOPE that someone else can come and convince you that it is wrong. Not that you think it is, but you DOUBT that it is. But just simply 'stating' it won't do, since you feel it is incorrect to just LET GO easily.
Every decision we take get us one thing and make us to loose many things. Since we got one life, dictate your life yourself (or may include others if you want). Sometimes we may have to take a decision that may not lead to what we wanted, but belief that whatever decision you took was good, looking the circumstances you faced during the time of decision.
ReplyDeleteand who knows the decision (you assumed to say mistake in future)..may be the most memorable decision of yours.
(Live life in the present)